You never really know a song until you read the lyrics. I've bopped my head to Mariah Carey's Honey over a gazillion times. Today, I finally read the lyrics and they inspired me to make this blog entry.
And it's just like honey
When you love comes over me
Oh baby, I got a dependency
Always strung out for another taste of your honey
Sounds innocent and cutesy eh? But let's delve deeper into this. It's well documented that drugs are bad. We all know or know of a druggie who is strung out. Will do any and everything to get another hit. Steal, rob, lie, cheat, whatever it takes to keep getting high. Do we really want to compare love to this? Can we compare love to this? I think we compare untrue "love" to this, but not true love.
We all know someone who will do anything for the sake of "love". We all got a homie who will lie to themselves and us because they say they're in love. We all know someone who is cheating themselves out of a good life (and a good mate) because they're in love. We all know a person who seems to be addicted to mate and 10 times out of 9, that person is bad for them....just like a hit of crack, a line of coke, a syringe of heroin.
Most folk who are strung out on drugs are still chasing that first high. If you're steady chasing a good feeling in a relationship, you're basically taking a piss in the wind. Ask any crackhead, they'll probably tell you with good memory that first hit. Ask them have they found a high better than that first one, they'll probably tell you no. They can tell you about all the lows they've experienced. All the bridges they've burned. All the regrets they have.
Stuff like that always rubs me the wrong way because it makes love to be dependent state. You hear stuff like "he's my everything" "she's my world" "they complete me". #lefail If you make someone your everything, what are you left with when they leave? Be a whole person and you'll be a whole person when they leave you. Even more importantly, you'll be able to say no to drugs. Peace.