MJ Got Six 'Ships, Surely This Isn't Too Much

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I've been told that I am extremely picky when it comes to the ladies. I agree 100%. Not so much picky about looks, but I hold myself to a high standard and I expect the same from a mate. If you aren't on that level or have no desire to be there, kick rocks and KIM. While I've been able to whittle away things that aren't totally necessary (tall as or taller than me, Knicks fan, knows what happened to Judy of Family Matters), some things will not be compromised. I decided to list only 6 this go round, only non looks related stuff. Note: the standard laundry list is implied (e.g. honest, no criminal record, mentally stable, etc)

1. Belief in God - I can't clap to you being on that atheist kick. I may can roll with Allah or Buddha, but I'd rather you be down with the GOD. On the flip side, I don't do holy rollers either. If you're so heavenly that you're no earthly good, keep moving. I strive each day to be better than before, but still I fall short of the glory.

2. College educated - I tried to whittle that one away, but I can't. It's very important to me. I'm not saying having a degree makes you smarter, but it does show you can commit to a goal. The degree must be from an accredited school. Your PhD from Rootie Poo Tech does nothing for me.

3. Knowledge of self - I can't deal with someone who is all over the place. I want someone who is secure in their values and in themselves. If you don't know who you are from one day to the next, it won't work. You gotta be comfortable in your own skin.

4. Financially smart - Not saying you have to have 6 figures in the bank (yet), but you have to be able to successfully manage what you do have. If your credit score is low, work on it. If your credit score is high, maintain it. If you don't know what it is or don't care, get away. I can't deal with Gucci purses with no money and maxed out credit cards in them. Know about investments or be willing to let me teach you.

5. Well Rounded/Cultured - Don't get me wrong, I still like listening to Project Pat and eating wings at dive bars. However, if you don't know a fish fork from a pitch fork, we have a problem. If you think the symphony is boring, we have a problem. If you pronounce ballet (as ball-let), we have a problem. If the only time you've seen a museum is on tv, we have a problem.

6. Able to show me things - Yeah, I know that I'm a genius, but there are some things I don't know. I'm always willing to learn something new. It can be as simple as a new song or as complex as a nuclear fission techniques. Challenge my limits (not my patience).

These six things are not the definitive list, but it's a good intro. I don't think I'm asking for too much. Peace.

What's Been Up With Our Fearless Hero?

Over the past few months, my blogging has been anything but consistent. Not to say that nothing has been going on, if anything way too much (in a good way). Anywho, I figured I'll just ramble for a spell and call it an entry.

* I find myself really intrigued by a certain chick's boobies. I think they're pretty awesome. I should ask her can I see them. Save myself some time. Or am just intrigued by the thought of them? *shrug*

* If you're starting your own business and don't have the money for salary right now, hit up Craigslist. I was extremely blessed to find 3 great individuals to come on board on a part/spare time basis until I can get them on salary.

* I think I've finally come to the realization that I am to work on my company full time. Not to say I won't go on interviews when I'm called, but God wouldn't allow me to take a job away from someone who desperately needed and/or wanted it. I'd just be working there for less than 9 months.

* I'm learning to stop cutting my blessings off at the knees. Meaning, I'm learning to ask God for major major things. Go hard or go home.

* Moving back with my fam hasn't been the traumatic experience I thought it would be. Granted I'm the type who prefers living alone, it's been kinda cool to have people around sometimes.

* I haven't been on a date in over 3 months. I haven't been on a dope date in years. Not to say the ones in between have been wack, they just never led to anything. Even with my schedule getting more hectic by the day, I still could fit a cool young lady into my schedule.

* I really hope they kill Tara off on True Blood. Her character gets progressively annoying. Perhaps it's the "woe is a black woman" storylines they give her.

* Whilst it is comparing apples to oranges, Twitter is 100x better than Facebook. I've met so many new and cool folk on there. Tis also a great networking tool. Facebook has just become a lot of whoring for likes and comments.

* A certain chick from my past has really been on my mind. I really liked her a lot but the timing just never was right between us. I'm not a big fan of memory lane visits, so I'll stay in my corner and she'll stay in hers.

I reckon that's enough for now. I hope to be able to blog more often, but we shall see. Peace.

True Life: I'll Play Your Game Anytime

I've always gone for uber feminine chicks who may own one pair of sneakers. None of them play sports, heck none of them really like sports. That's just always been my thing. Recently, there has been a shift in what kind of woman I'm attracted to. More and more I catch myself really being into athletic women. They're not overly masculine but they sometimes have that edge about themselves. I find that tres sexy nowadays. Don't get it twisted, I don't want to date a chick who looks and acts like Albert Haynesworth.

Anywho, here is my list of current athletes that I find myself a bit attracted to. I decided to post pics of them in their uniforms, not all glammed up.



1. Cappie Pondexter - Cute, stylish, straight up beast on the court. CP23 is the total package for me. I love watching her interviews and reading her tweets. I haven't hooped in years, but I'd play her (and win) for her heart, her draws, a date, you name it.

2. Hope Solo - Those eyes do it for me. I love watching her work the net, with moves like that....I can only imagine.


3. Candice Dupree - One of the unsung cuties of the WNBA. The few Phoenix games I've caught this year, I've noticed how chill and laid back she seems on the court. I likey.

4. Natasha Kai - I've never been a big fan of chicks with hella tats. I'm willing to make an exception for this one though.5. Leilani Mitchell - She's about the only one out of the bunch that I could tower over (listed at 5'5" which means she's probably 5'3). She could still post me up. I welcome it.

All these chicks I wouldn't mind playing them one on one. So ladies, if you're reading this blog post.....get at me. Peace.

Exiting the Comfort Zone....Buckle Up

All throughout life, we are instructed to go to university and get a "good job". First off, what defines a good job? 50k? 75k? 100k? What happens when the good job turns out to be bad for you? Where's the section in the handbook that discusses what to do when 9 to 5 is draining the life out of you?

A couple months ago, I left my job. Out of the 3 years I was there, I was only somewhat content for 2 or 3 months....tops. It's funny how God has to force our hands sometimes. He used my boss to ride me like Seabiscuit until had no choice but to leave. He knew otherwise, I would have stayed and lost even more years of my life.

Starting my own company has been fun, exciting, scary, but never frustrating. There are days where I wonder how to make my pitches better, ponder how to get in touch with investors, and debate on whether or not to get an intern. Not once have I thought "you're crazy" or "this will never work". I keep trudging on because no matter how slowly this is going, I'm a lot closer to wealth than I would have ever been at my last gig.

Is it all about wealth? No and yes. Mark 8:36 says what good is for a man to gain the world yet forfeit his soul. However, Ecclesiastes 10:19 tells me that money answers all things. I want to leave wealth behind for my nieces, nephews, little sister, and kids if I ever have any. I want them to pursue any opportunity they like without having to worry about how they are going to pay for it. They are why I work like I do.

Charities need volunteers but they also need money. I want to be able to write checks for causes that are near and dear to me. I want to build schools in my home state. I want to help as many people as I can. I know a $250k goes a lot further than 2 hours baking bread.

Not everyone wants to be their own boss. Some of us don't want the responsibilities that entrepreneurship entails. However, investigate other streams of income. Don't let your 9 - 5 be your only stream. There is no such thing as job security in this day and age. I know there's something you're passionate about. Pursue it...hard. Don't let a job such the life and creativity out of you. Peace.

You Banged The Gavel Already?

We all judge. Every single last one of us. The Bible tells us not to judge, yet we do it at least 10 times a day. We look at the young black dude running and think "I hope he ain't running from a crime". We see the lady at the store with 2 kids and think "I wonder if the dad is around". Just like that, we have judged.

Last night, I was talking with a homie of mine. Somehow, the subject got on me and my lack of dating. I told her that most women see me and judge me on the spot. They see the camo shorts and fitted then think to themselves "she wanna be a thug" or "she probably work at a warehouse or in security". No diss to warehouse workers or security guards. They watch me walk by and think "she doesn't know a dinner fork from a salad fork" or "she probably wants a woman to wait on her hand and foot".

Just like that, I am thrown from the dating pool before I even open my mouth. The instant judging is one of the main reasons why I don't do "cold hollas". I feel that I do much better with women I have established some kind of rapport with. I cannot count the number of times a woman has conversed with me and said "I never thought you were like this". Of course the first few times I had to ask what that meant. I've gotten a wide range of answers from "I figured you were one of those typical wanna be thug/playas who had bad credit and lived with your mama" to "I figured you don't read books without pictures".

It's cold, but for a lot of folk perception is reality. I'd be a fool to think that folk will ever stop judging. However, for those of us who are in the dating world, we should definitely dig a little deeper before casting people aside. You just never know what is under that fitted and underneath that t-shirt. Peace.

Welcome to the Cyberpool....No Lifeguard on Duty

Over the past couple months, I have dabbled in online dating. I've never been one of those who thinks dating sites are for losers. To me, a dating site is just another way to meet people. No different than meeting a chick at the mall. Just like a person you meet on the street, it can go pretty good or awfully terrible. Here is some things I've learned over these last 60 days.

Deciphering online phrases:
"outgoing" - I talk way too much.
"down to earth" - I've been told I'm stuck up.
"smart" - I have read a book that didn't have pictures in the past year.
"adventurous" - I saw a skydiving video online.
"I don't like arrogant women". - I'm arrogant as heck.
"I only put up a profile because my friend/aunt/probation officer/etc suggested" - I don't want to feel like a complete loser.
"I am a free spirit" - I'm a slore.

I'm amazed at how many chicks there are who are studying to become Aerospace Engineers, volunteer 20 hours a week at the homeless shelter whilst juggling their modeling career and working full time as a party promoter. It's rare to come across a profile of a woman who has a degree and a career. Perhaps these kind of women don't do online dating. *shrug*

Deciphering career titles:
"Self-employed" - I ain't got no job!
"Promoter" - I pass out flyers.
"Pediatrics" - I work at a daycare.
"Gainfully employed" - I have a job that's pretty crappy but it pays.
"Ninja/Warrior/Genius/Quasi-funny title" - I ain't got no job and I like anime!
"Dancer/Entertainer" - I'm a stripper.

The worst part of online dating is getting messages from undesirables. I try to be nice and let them down easily, but I can't help but to wonder "what the heck were you thinking?". If my profile says that I'm 29, no children, educated, non-smoker with a car why would I want to go out with a 38 year old with 4 kids, studying at Concorde, chain smoker with no vehicle? You would think common sense would tell them not to message me. Shoot for the moon I guess.

The runner up has to be chicks who want to exchange 123783 messages. If by message 5, you're not trying to give up the digits, twitters, skype, or something, count me out. I'm not here to make pen pals. There are websites for that. If you're that scared to give out your #, hop on Google Voice. I have noticed that a lot of chicks are just on there for the attention and ego boost. They have no desire to meet up with anybody, they just want to feel like "they still got it".

Now I've talked a lot of noise, but all in all, I've had some great experiences ( I emphasize experience ) with women I've met online. My profile has gone pretty dormant lately; however, when I get the urge to see what's good, I'll fire it back up again. Online dating doesn't have the stigma that it used it, so if you're looking for way to supplement your dating pool......give it a go. You might just like it. Peace.

Forget a Chapter.....

*blows the dust off* Man, feels like forever since I last blogged. Life seemed to have gotten in the way and it cut into my blog time. Where should I begin?

So many changes have taken place in my life since I last put an entry in. Some good, some bad, but eventually they will all be great. I'm just patiently waiting for God to move in all areas of my life. In the meantime, I will continue to work on self to make sure I'm able to handle whatever He sends my way.

I thought I would be scared ish-less but I'm unafraid. Things don't always go the way we try to "script" them. It's a good thing though. If that were the case, we'd never have a reason to trust God. I'm trusting and believing Him with everything in me. He would never take me out of one situation without having something even better lined up.

*raises glass* Here's to whatever comes next. Peace.